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After Paris

It’s been over ten days since the brutal attacks on Paris and here we are; struggling to find a new normal in the aftermath. What happened was absolutely terrible, but honestly, what’s been happening since is really bothering me as well.

We are torn. Emotionally and mentally ripped apart. It’s happening culturally, it’s happening on a Country-wide level, and it’s also ripping many religious organizations apart. Friends and neighbours are arguing and disagreeing, sweet people are being attacked for expressing their views and our fears are being stoked daily. Last week, I watched as a sweet elderly (yet spunky) lady shared a simple post to her FB page-

Be happy..

live a happy life

‘What do you think? Are we better to just leave this Paris incident in the hands of the experts and stop our comments or feelings on the situation, no matter how valid they may be. Just let others know we are with them in thought and prayer and let those in charge take charge?’

Love thy neighbour....


….and she was pretty much verbally attacked by friends who had other feelings and opinions. Maybe it would have been easier to acknowledge this ladies feelings and understand what she was trying to express. Sometimes it’s not about telling people why they are wrong, it’s about trying to hear another souls thoughts. Just listening.

FB has a lot of good points, but in my opinion, its opened up a whole new can of worms. It seems like everybody is sharing their views and nobody is listening or learning. It’s become a position of ‘my views are my views and that’s it’. It’s reminiscent of tying two cats together and throwing them over a clothesline and watching them fight. Neither of them cares about the other side , it’s just an all out battle and winning (being right). That’s sad, in so many ways.



These terrorists, that we’re all talking about, are winning. Not in the big scheme of things, with any luck (and lots of hard work) they will never win on a global scale. They are however, winning on a smaller personal level every time we bash somebody else’s thoughts and ideas. Their goal is to instill fear, hurt and terror, and they are doing that, while also making us mistrustful of others and intolerant of anything different. Terrorists are making us fight amongst ourselves. When we’re striking out at our own, they are winning. We are allowing terrorists to take away our freedom of speech and the weapon being used is our very own selves. That makes my heart heavy.

We're all hurt....


I'm going to start over....


We need to be open to the idea that we are all different and different is not necessarily bad, it’s just not ‘the same’. We need to allow others to express themselves without feeling the need to prove them wrong(yes, I’m guilty too) …and honestly, we need to understand that bashing each other on FB is not helping one little bit. The information that is being shared is sometimes incorrect, often slanted and very often scares others. As much as all want to fix the ways of the world, our FB rants or posts will not change the world, or influence leaders..or prevent a terrorist attack. We have to realize, it’s not OUR job to make (force) others to share our view. Our job is to live and let live.

Nobody is saying we should be idle and let them win. Nobody is saying that we should be apathetic or to turn a blind eye. Yes, lives were changed on 9/11 and then again on 11/13, but we can’t forget who we are, or what we’re made of, or they will win. There are no guarantees in life, there never has been. The only thing we are guaranteed in this life, is that it will end on death…..and personally, I know between now and then, I’m going to do my damnedest to enjoy every day. I’m going to smile, and listen and be kind. I will not let them steal my happiness. I will not let them win. I invite you to do the same.

Ask yourself.....


That’s it for this time, if you have any questions, or comments, I’d love to hear them. If you’re really enjoying the BPA blogging adventures and don’t want to miss out, click ‘follow me’ and your name/email will be added to our growing list of blog subscribers. We’ll email you when a new blog post happens, then you can read them all at your own leisure…..and remember, I’m no expert, I’m just a painter gal with some thoughts to share.

Life Instructions by a 95 year old.

We’re told to end our blog posts with a question, but just this once I won’t. I’ll end it with a request.

Before we make any comments and bash what I’m saying here (or elsewhere)..maybe we should all step back and listen, and try to figure out what the other person is trying to say.

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